The cards we are dealt in life

self detective
3 min readMar 18, 2021

The playing cards you are dealt at the beginning of a game will

often determine how well you do in that game. Generally, ‘high’

cards like kings, queens and jacks put you in a strong position,

whereas ‘low’ cards such as 2, 3 or 4 are seen as a bad hand.

Yet there are so many card games where different cards and

suits mean different things.

Aces are sometimes high or sometimes low. Spades are sometimes ‘trumps’,

meaning that any spade will be higher than any card from another suit.

Jokers can sometimes be used as ‘wild’ cards, which means that they can be

whatever you want them to be.

The cards you were dealt at birth

Q: Which five cards would you pick to represent your life at birth?

[NB: You may wish to use these cards to reflect the era you

were born in, the parents you were given, your siblings, the life

chances you had or did not have.]

Card 1:

Card 2:

Card 3:

Card 4:

Card 5:

Once you have chosen your cards, take a look at them, together with all the other cards you did not pick.

Q: What do you think the cards say about your start in life?

The cards you have at this present moment in time

Think about yourself in the present moment. Do you still have the same cards

you had at birth, or have some of them — maybe even all of them — changed?

Card 1:

Card 2:

Card 3:

Card 4:

Card 5:

Again, once you have chosen your cards, have a look at them, as well as

looking at all the other cards you did not pick.

Q: What do you think the cards say about your life at this moment in time?

The cards you would like to have in the future

Think about the hopes or goals you have for the future.

Q: What cards might reflect these aims?

Card 1:

Card 2:

Card 3:

Card 4:

Card 5:

Q: What do these cards represent to you?

Q: What else might playing cards be useful for?

Q: Can you think of any other way to use playing cards

creatively to highlight different aspects of your life? For example:

Could certain cards represent all the significant people in your

life, starting with one card that is you, and then the next person

and the next person and so on?

[NB: If you do this last exercise on a table, try placing the cards

down one at a time, then deciding if you are happy with where

each card is in proximity to the card you have chosen for

yourself and also its proximity to other people’s cards.]

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